How’s That Workin’ For Ya
How’s That Been Workin’ For Ya?
Please allow me to preface my words by first stating that I am not a doctor. I am not a psychologist, a life coach, or a personal trainer. What I am, is a person who has figured it out. I’ve lost over seventy five pounds. I still have about twenty five to my goal, but I have zero doubt that I will get there. I also know that I will keep it off forever.
I spent twenty years being obese. I’ve heard it all because I’ve said it all. I’ve said it out loud to others. Worse, I’ve said it to myself. ” I just can’t lose weight. Diets don’t work for me.” Well half that statement is right. The other, is absurd. But I believed it. I believed I couldn’t lose weight. I believed I was destined to remain fat forever. I believed the first sentence because the second sentence was true. Here’s the news revelation: diets don’t work for anyone.
Well let me correct myself just a bit. If you have ten pounds or less to lose and you want to get a little weight off for your big upcoming event, then a diet just might do the trick. For all the rest of us, it’s time to celebrate burnivus: the festival celebrating the burning of all diet books ever published.
I’ve read diet books on what foods to eat. I’ve read books on what portions to eat. I’ve read books about what excercises to do. I’ve even read books written by skinny people telling me how to think about food. I say burn them all. None of them tell you the real thing you need to know if you truly want to lose weight, lose it in a healthy way, and lose it forever.
So here it is. Are you ready. Here’s what people pay big bucks to know. You have to figure out what’s going on between your ears. You’ve got to use your brain. We’re all so quick to to run to the nearest diet center, buy the newest book, and follow the newest diet craze. We’re all too willing to plunk down our hard earned dollars for someone to weigh us, package food for us, prescribe a pill for us, and teach us the latest exercise craze. We have the firm belief in our heads that if we just pay the right people, the right amount of money, they’ll be able to make it happen. It will be worth all that money if they can just make it work for us.
I beg you, listen to what’s going on between your ears. You have a brain. I know you do. It’s in there somewhere. It’s above your hands that are holding the latest diet book, and it’s above your mouth full of fudgy brownies. The only thing on top of it is your hair, if you still have any.
Stop the madness I say. Stop paying someone else to think for you. Please, use your noggin. So allow me to explain what I mean. First please allow me to explain how good we are in using our minds to make excuses for ourselves. How many times have you said to yourself that you have a slow metabolism? How many times have you said that you have a Thyroid problem? How many times have you told yourself that you were just born with bad genes? Have you told yourself you can’t lose weight because of the medication you’re on? Granted, it’s possible that you do have one or even all of these problems. So when’s the last time you marched yourself into the doctor’s office to have it all checked out? My guess is that the answer to that question is zero. If you feel you truly have a medical reason why you are overweight, than why wouldn’t you get it checked out? Perhaps because not knowing, is working for you. Perhaps it’s giving you the perfect excuse to do nothing and remain overweight.
Other excuses I’ve heard are people that tell me they’re good all week long and only indulge a little on the weekends. They can’t understand why they aren’t losing weight. Has that plan of attack been working for you? And finally, I’ve heard the excuse of people telling me that they know what works for them if they really want to lose weight. They know they just have to buckle down and limit those calories and the weight will come flying off. They know how to do it better than any of the experts. They know that if they just go by the philosophy of calories in/calories out, they will lose weight. Now although this last one is technically true, how many people do you know who have cut their calories down to minuscule numbers, lost weight over an extended period of time, and kept it off?
Use your heads people, not your wallets. Go to the doctor, rid yourself of excuses. So using your brain 101 is to stop making excuses for yourself. Now on to using your brain 102. If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always had. How many diets have you been on over the years? How many did you stick with? Did you get all the weight off you desired? Have you kept it off? If you answered more than one and no to all the rest of the questions, why would you do it again the same way? Why start yet another diet and deprive yourself of all your food joy only to find that after using all willpower on the planet, you have still, in the end, failed miserably? Why? Why? Why? Use that matter you have between your ears. It never worked before. Why would it work now if you haven’t changed anything? Do you honestly think that if you buy this book, learn this diet, follow this exercise routine, that this time it will magically work? I can tell you that it won’t. More importantly, you can tell you that it won’t.
So start thinking. What do you have to do differently this time to make it work? Concentrate. If you are anything like me, and my guess is that we are extremely alike, the one thing you always do is jump in with all the motivation in the world. You plunge in feet first, not head first, motivated to finally do it this time. You’re going to be perfect. You’re strong. You have awesome willpower. You want this more than anything. Let’s go, let’s go, let’s go!
Here’s where you have to put on the brakes. Here’s where you have to stop and think. Haven’t you been this motivated before? What went wrong? What derailed you? What made that train that was going full steam ahead suddenly lurch to a complete and utter stop and right in the middle of the tracks? Wait, go back. There was a word in there. I think I heard it. Yep, I heard it: perfect. Ah, yes, that was the word. How many people do you know who are perfect? I know I’m not, are you? Just what makes our brains think that this time we’re going to be perfect? Here’s the news flash: there’s no such thing as perfect. I’ll bet you’ve tried to be perfect before. I’ll bet you even were perfect for a little while. But perfect can’t last. The sooner you get your brain to realize this, the sooner you will be on your way to permanent weight loss. Stop with the all or nothing mentality. Stop being perfect all week because look what happens on the weekend when you let your guard down. Stop cutting calories to the bone for long periods of time because eventually, you’ll give in. We all know that when that happens, if it’s not nailed down, we’ll eat it. Just plain stop being on a diet every day of your life. This is what caused me to finally understand what they say when they tell you to make a lifestyle change. You have to change your thinking from either being on a diet when you restrict what you eat or off a diet when you get to eat whatever you want. Find the middle ground. The sooner you find it, the faster you’ll get to your ultimate healthy weight. Allow yourself small indulgences on a regular basis. Allow yourself to be satisfied. Take baby steps towards healthy living instead of jumping in all at once. It takes months to form a single good habit. Change them one at a time.
Using your brain allows you to stop making excuses, stop doing the same unsuccessful things over and over again, and stop trying to be perfect. There’s one more thing you need to use your brain for if you want to succeed in permanent weight loss. Speak kindly to yourself. It’s a simple idea, but how many of us actually practice it. Think of it this way, if you spoke to your best friend the way you speak to yourself, would they still be your best friend? How many times do you tell yourself that you screwed up, your worthless, you can’t succeed, or you’ll never be as ____________ as someone else? Teach yourself to be kind to yourself. Instead of berating yourself, try to compliment yourself. Wow, I ate well for one whole meal, look at me go. Gee, I ate three different vegetables today, good for me. The list can go on forever.
Using your brain is free and I can tell you without a doubt, that it works better than the most expensive diets out there. If you haven’t been using it, how’s that been workin’ for ya?
Originally posted 2014-06-19 08:00:55. Republished by Blog Post Promoter