80 Pounds Lost: Take Control
NAME : Melissa
BEFORE WEIGHT : 250
AFTER WEIGHT : 170
POUNDS LOST : 80
WHEN DID YOU START DEVELOPING A WEIGHT PROBLEM?
My weight issues began at 9 years old . At that time we moved into a new neighborhood away from old friends. Also there was a lot of drama at home behind closed doors. My mother and stepfather constantly were fighting . I use to lock myself in my room away from it all . I use to bring snacks and food and just sit in my room scared and nervous and eat through their fighting. I believe that’s when I developed the habit of emotional eating . I would eat to make me feel better .
HOW DID YOUR WEIGHT AFFECT ANY ASPECT(S) OF YOUR LIFE?
My weight kept me a prisoner from being social . To go out and be social caused so much anxiety . It would take me forever to find an outfit that I would feel somewhat confident in . If you were close to me I was the life of the party but other than that I would not be seen at parties or gatherings . If I did attend social gatherings my mind would never turn off because I would constantly wonder what others thought of me or I would be thinking of how I looked the entire time.
WHAT WAS THE “TURNING POINT” THAT GOT YOU STARTED ON YOUR WEIGHT LOSS JOURNEY?
My turning point was on vacation in Punta Cana. I was on a trip with a bunch of friends who hadn’t seen me in awhile . I had shyed away from social media or gatherings because I got so heavy . Therefore I was dreading seeing everyone . I was walking by the pool and a friend of mine had the idea of taking a picture by the pool with all the girls in their bathing suits. I instantly was turned off and what rapidly seeking for a way out . I noticed a bathroom right behind the pool so I decided to go hide. As I was hiding in the bathroom I hear my friend say ” where’s Melissa , she was just here . I’m going to check the bathroom .” My heart began to race as I hear her come inside and ask ” Melissa , are you in here?” I was hiding in the stall with my feet up and I started to cry . My friend said to me “come out .” I explained to her I can’t take the picture because if I do that means I need to face who I’ve become and I don’t think I’m ready to do that . I decided to go out and take the picture . All the girls were lining up and were told to sit and cross their legs in the pool. It took all of my strength to get my legs to cross. I could not believe I lost control of my life and it got so bad .
HOW DID YOU GET STARTED?
After that moment in the pool I went back to my room and cried . I text my very dear friend Vana if she could help me save my life . I was ready to change and finally really get the weight off and keep it off. When I got back we brainstormed and decided to document the whole journey through video blogs. We wanted to docucment the good , the bad and the ugly of going through this change not just the before and after .We realized to embark on a journey like this will take growth in our mind , body and soul. I knew that the anwser to create results was change . We decided to block out all of the influence and what we call “noise ” from media , fad diets , magazines etc. I knew if I wanted long lasting results I had to make this apart of who I am . In the beginning we focused on 3 goals at a time to develop healthy habits . My first three goals were to drink more water , workout three times a week , cut of fried food. I was looking to develop long term results not just a quick fix or be on a “diet.”
WHAT WAS THE HARDEST PART?
My biggest challenge I faced besides my mind was dealing with Pcos . I did not bring this to the forefront of my journey because I didn’t want it to be my crutch . I accepted that I would have to work harder than others. I rather it take me longer to get the result than not get results at all.
DID YOU EVER WANT TO GIVE UP? WHAT KEPT YOU GOING?
I’ve wanted to give up too many times . This has been the hardest thing I’ve ever done . What kept me going was seeing how far I came . It was simple for me it was really hard being overweight and at times it’s really hard trying to lose weight, so I asked myself when it became tough which hard do I want.
DID YOU HIT ANY WEIGHT LOSS PLATEAUS? HOW DID YOU OVERCOME THEM?
I’ve hit many plateaus on my journey . At times I’ve felt very defeated and like a failure . It has taken me to dig deep and to see although I’ve plateaued the bigger lesson is I have not gone backwards . All of the hard work changed me and has created long lasting results .
DID YOU HAVE ANY NON-SCALE VICTORIES?
I’ve accomplished many victories along the way . I’ve completed a tough mudder race , a 5k , won a weight loss competition and even had the courage to wear a two piece bathing suit . I would never of imagined these goals to have been achieved . The scale no longer defines my happiness or success.
WHAT DOES YOUR DAILY DIET LOOK LIKE COMPARED TO WHEN YOU WERE HEAVIER?
Even though I was heavy I did not cosume fast food . My issues was emotional eating and portions . I am a food addict and food was my drug of choice . If I was happy or sad I turned to food .
HOW DOES YOUR PHYSICAL ACTIVITY COMPARE TO WHEN YOU WERE HEAVIER?
I intially hated working out ! I started again with a goal to create better habits . I set a goal to exercise 3 times a week . I joined a local gym and would take various classes that were offered. There are so many ways to get exercise. What worked for me was trial and error. I started with dance classes and workout equipment . I’ve tried yoga and even cross fit . I enjoy mixing it up and doing outdoor activities as well such as hiking and bike riding . I don’t think there is one exercise better than others. What I do believe is being active is crucial to living a healthy lifestyle.
MY WEIGHT LOSS TIPS & TRICKS
- Mirror talk- Sit in front of the mirror and have a talk with yourself alone . Before it all be honest with yourself, forgive yourself and let it all go.
- Ask for help – If you know you can’t resist the bread or don’t know how to stop ask those around you to keep you accountable.
- Schedule your workout- I treated my workouts like a date , a work day etc. I made it a major priority like any other priority.
- Correct yourself – If I said something bad about myself (either out load or in my head ),I had to replace that with three positive things.
- Self care – Whether a date alone , spa day or reading a book take time alone for you .